The Ultimate Gratitude Challenge Day 2: Significant Other

Today's topic in this challenge is all about significant others! My significant other is Jared--my wonderful boyfriend (and now roommate). I wrote a post back in 2013 about our relationship, including how we met, so I won't repeat myself and run the risk of boring you half to death.


In February of 2014, Jared and I split for a few months to sort out our differences, and began dating again in late May. In the original blog post mentioned above, I spoke to his religious upbringing and how difficult it was to let go of my chance to have a larger second family, as well as sort out our initial struggles around that part of our relationship.

What caused our split was not the family aspect, but the typical college-kid break up involving a lack of commitment, and a consequent loss of patience in said situation. We were arguing often, and didn't have the proper tools to solve our conflicts. It took a true good look at our coupling and a lot of dedication, but we pushed through the hardships and came out stronger than before.

I've come to the conclusion that just because a significant other makes a mistake when they are young and quite honestly immature, it doesn't mean that they will always behave that way. More importantly: you cannot force a person to change their behavior. They will change it if they are truly passionate about you and they respect their relationship with you.

As I am slowly growing into adulthood, I realize that the best things and the most cherished things in life take work, especially relationships. If things come easy, they usually aren't worth it, or at least they aren't all that they are cracked up to be. Without Jared, I wouldn't have learned this, and for that, I am forever grateful to him.

Each experience is a learning curve, and each day that we gain age, we gain a bit more wisdom. Most importantly: as Brene Brown's quote reads above, "You're imperfect, and you're wired for struggle, but you are worthy of love and belonging"!

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