Happy 2017! When we speak about setting New Year's resolutions, there's often a bundle of support, along with a bundle of resistance. Some people are supporters, others are often resisters of the idea. I've always focused my time and energy on how to set attainable New Year's resolutions because, let's face it: you're not going to lose 50 pounds in February (nor should you).
DETERMINE THE BIGGER IDEA
Start by identifying the larger idea that lives inside of you - that drives your goals. For example, mine is the motivation to be an independent businesswoman and never have to work a 9-5 job. Is that realistic? No, but it doesn't hurt anybody!
BREAK IT DOWN TO BITE SIZE
Now, you can begin to outline which realistic and attainable goals stem from this greater idea. For example: I could list, "Gaining 5 more stable clients" - something that isn't too unlikely and still challenges me to work hard. Goals are all about challenging ourselves!
I'm not even going to sugarcoat this (no pun intended) or lie: I complete goals more often if I promise myself a reward. Whether this is chocolate, a new lipstick or even a new electronic item, I have to have it! Hey, it's better than aimlessly spoiling yourself, right!? Pick something that will drive you to complete hard work.
TELL YOUR FRIENDS
If you tell your best girlfriends about your goals for the New Year, they can help hold you accountable! Maybe have them tell you theirs and you can set up a reminder/peptalk system.
STOP NEGATIVE SELF-TALK
I may not be a Negative Nancy about New Year's resolutions in general, but I'm not a fan of negative self-talk that motivates resolutions. Unless you have a serious health condition or your goal is to "become healthier", losing weight should not be part of your resolutions (for cosmetic purposes). Nor should becoming more popular. Surface-level resolutions never work out.
DON'T BEAT YOURSELF UP!
If something doesn't go as planned, don't sweat it! When you Google "resolution", the first synonym is "intention". That's all it is: an intention, an "aim", a "plan", to name some more. A resolution is not necessarily a guarantee. It's the solution to a problem, but we're human and we all have problems/make mistakes/slip up.
TRY AGAIN + KEEP MOVING
It's a constant process of trying, picking ourselves back up and trying again. I don't like using the word "failing" for something that was simply an option, a Plan A. What about Plan B? Just keep moving and progress is inevitable.
How do you ensure that you set attainable New Year's resolutions?
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BLOGGER: KATHRYN COFFMAN
Kathryn is the lead contributor + founder at FashionablyFrank.com. Obsessed with leading a life of balance, she started the blog in 2013. Since graduating from The Evergreen State College (Washington) in 2016, she is now a digital marketing specialist through her business, Fashionably Frank Marketing. She believes a cup of coffee is the answer to all of life's problems + that all women should strive to embrace a #girlboss mantra.