It's no secret: I'm a huge Bachelor Nation advocate! ;) For many people, it's a ya love it or ya hate it kind of thing - you either live and breathe The Bachelor or you absolutely despise everything it stands for. I guess you could say I'm a mix of the two. There's been many life lessons learned from watching The Bachelor, but these are just the 9 that stick out to me:
1. THE FIRST ONE MAY NOT BE "THE ONE"
Don't settle for (or get too attached to) the first shiny diamond - the first big opportunity calling your name, both in romance and in life. The first big thing may not be the last, or the one that sticks. Take each day for what it is.
2. IN FACT, THEY OFTEN AREN'T
It's okay to get your hopes up, just don't let them get shattered. Jason + Molly, anyone!?
3. NEVER ACT LIKE SOMEONE YOU'RE NOT
It's not worth compromising who you are to fit a mold of what you think someone wants you to be. Channeling our inner Claire Crawley, it's imperative that we let go when it's time to move on and never give up who we are for love, friendship or work.
I mean, nobody wants a Jake + Vienna hot mess somewhere down the road!
4. DON'T EVER SETTLE FOR LESS THAN YOUR GREATEST JOY
Because life is a roller coaster, sometimes joy won't come along when you hope it will and it's okay to say no when everyone is telling you to say yes. Just like Bachelor Brad Womack, it's fine to say goodbye (even when you're saying goodbye to someone or something as amazing as Deanna Pappas)... that just means something even more special is around the corner.
5. "ES (NOT) OKAY"
Misogyny, among many other negatives, is not a cute look, and in the words of Juan Pablo, "es okay" to call it out, beat it down and do it over + over again until society gets a grip!
Use this philosophy in all of your life's endeavors - if something isn't feeling right or someone isn't treating you fairly, it is in your best interest to split! Es (NOT) okay.
6. THERE'S NEVER A PERFECT SOUNDTRACK TO OUR LIVES
Our lives are not a reality show, nor will they ever be (unless you're Ben + Lauren, or The Twins). Taking a page from Trista + Ryan's playbook, we must find the thing or the person that will satisfy us and keep us fulfilled for years + years to come - not just in the moment.
7. YOUR FRIENDS + FAMILY ARE ALL YOU HAVE
If your friends or family have something to say, at least give them the opportunity and listen. At the end of the day, your friends and family are all you have, over any romantic entanglement you may find yourself in. They are the ones to truly cherish!
8. BUT SOMETIMES THEY'RE WRONG, TOO
Just err on the side of caution when it comes to your family / friend involvement in your relationship. While family and friends can be extremely helpful when determining somebody's credibility at first, it may just be that your family doesn't get who you've chosen to love, and that's totally a-okay! You don't need to live for your family and friends.
9. SOMETIMES, YA JUST NEED AN ENTIRE BOTTLE OF WINE!
And for those times when logic is just not enough, you might need to pull a "JoJo's Mom" and chug the whole bottle! ;)
What has The Bachelor (or one of your fave TV shows) taught you?
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BLOGGER: KATHRYN COFFMAN
Kathryn is the lead contributor + founder at FashionablyFrank.com. Obsessed with leading a life of balance, she started the blog in 2013. Since graduating from The Evergreen State College (Washington) in 2016, she is now a digital marketing specialist through her business, Fashionably Frank Marketing. She believes a cup of coffee is the answer to all of life's problems + that all women should strive to embrace a #girlboss mantra.